Some Mistakes Were Made, by Kristin Dwyer

When Ellis's family began to fall apart, she found herself spending more and more time at her friend Easton's house.  An old friend of Ellis's father, Easton's mother Sandry virtually adopted Ellis; feeding her and giving her a place to stay.  Ellis even had her own room in the house, but she preferred to crawl into Easton's bed every night for platonic spooning.

But then a tragic series of events occurred, where members of Ellis's family betrayed Easton's family and Ellis was sent to live far away with a distant aunt.  Now, a year later, Ellis has been invited back to help celebrate Sandry's birthday.  While reluctant, Ellis decides to come and face the memories of her young years and re-visit the hurt she felt when she was sent away.  The complex dynamics of Ellis and Easton's relationship are dredged up and just about everyone has pain to share.

This is one of these YA stories that I can see teens loving for the pathos and the pain, but a grownup reader is just going to cringe.  The problems start with the extremely toxic nature of Ellis and Easton's relationship -- full of blame and anger, but completely unable to truly accept personal responsibility.  It's a natural outgrowth of the unhealthy codependency they built up.  And the fault quickly spreads to their families -- not only Ellis's neglectful and selfish parents but also Easton's family.  What parent would allow unrelated adolescents to sleep together in their house for years?  To the extent that there is any development of the adult characters, it seems that they are basically checked out on their parenting duties.

It isn't that just some mistakes were made.  It's that a lot of mistakes were made and compounded again and again.  And that these characters can dredge up their grudges and their bitter memories repeatedly doesn't make for uplifting reading.  So, yes, there's plenty of pain here, but you just wish that they would all just walk away from each other.   With the volume of past bad decisions, the characters' inability to forgive, and everyone's tendency to repeat and recycle the same stuff again and again, this is plain exhausting.  I kept hoping for a breakthrough, but it just never comes.  

So, young readers, pay attention:  this novel may have "all the feels" but it is a textbook for what bad relationships, child neglect, and a general inability to grow look like.  It is well enough written, but the overwhelmingly unhealthy nature of the relationships depicted was a huge turn off.